I agree with this, Aliya.

And I firmly believe that — in this area — women will never convince men to be better men. Only other men can do that.

Men have to challenge the bullshit they hear it, including from friends, and wherever they hear it, including locker rooms. We too often laugh off creepy behavior as a joke or “none of our business”, even when we would never do it.

One of the most insightful things I heard last year was that victimizers don’t just groom victims — they groom supporters, too.

I felt that.

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